Last week, my husband and I were sitting down to dinner and having our usual conversations. How was your day? What did you do? And all that fun jazz. But then, he asked me a different question. One that he had never asked before, and it totally threw me for a loop. I was proud of him for asking, because it was the last thing I ever expected him to ask.
"What did you do for YOU today?"
And I sat there in shock for a brief moment. Did he really just ask that? Does this mean he wants me to do more things for ME? So, I thought for a moment. My first initial instinct was to say "nothing." But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that on that particular day, I had done something for ME. I responded: I went to kickboxing. I meditated for 10 minutes. I read a chapter of my book before going to work. I had done a few things for me.
But then I turned the question around on him. What did you do for YOU today? And he didn't have an answer. He said he did nothing for himself that day.
And ever since then, it's got me thinking. How many of us make it through the day without doing anything for ourselves? This should not be normal. We have got to start taking care of ourselves more! We've got to realize that self-care isn't selfish! (thanks, Tami Hackbarth, 100% Guilt Free Self-Care Coach for teaching me this!).
So every day now, we ask each other, "What did you do for YOU today?" And I am more conscious of going throughout my day, making sure that I do at least 1 thing just for ME!
Abby Malmstrom, M.S. is an exercise physiologist and creator ofTrainer In Your Back Pocket® (TBP for short!) Join Abby and the TBP tribe as we motivate, inspire, and get killer workouts, nutrition challenges, and mindset focuses each month. Become part of the TBP team! Our arms are open wide for you! You'll never look at fitness as a chore again!
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Abby Malmstrom M.S., a.k.a. The Trainer In Your Back Pocket, is an exercise physiologist, certified personal trainer, group fitness instructor, wellness coach, and "real food" nutritionist. Her life as an active duty military spouse takes her all over the world, allowing her to influence, teach, and connect with folks in communities she never even dreamed of reaching. Life's an adventure, so join Abby for the ride! It's time to "Eat Well, Move Well, Think Well, Be Well."